Your child’s first day of school is here. But what if this new beginning for your child, and for you, doesn’t go as well as you had hoped? What should you do if your child is not getting used to his new school?
Starting kindergarten is a real change in your child’s life. He or she leaves home to be surrounded by adults and children he or she does not know. As a result, it naturally takes a little time to adjust. While most children get used to these changes relatively quickly, within three to four weeks, some find it more difficult to leave the family cocoon. Our diagnosis.
My child is having trouble with change in class
What is going on? Since birth, your child has been used to a certain number of routines, most of them involuntary and due to your family organisation, your functioning and your little habits. In fact, school turns everything upside down for him: no more reference points, no more habits.
How can this be remedied? It is important to establish new points of reference for your little one. Every morning, get him used to getting up at the same time, getting ready for school (breakfast, washing, dressing, always in the same order) and accompany him as “punctually” as possible. Rushing him and making him run to get to school on time risks stressing him out and blocking him.
What if it doesn’t work? Try to discuss it with him. Maybe these new habits don’t work for him and he wants different ones. Discuss it as a family and draw up a ‘schedule’ according to his expectations. Even at the age of 3, your child can already start to put into words what he likes and dislikes!
My child can’t stand being separated in class
What is happening? Some children find the separation from their parents very difficult. The result: every morning you leave your child crying at school, and naturally this affects you.
What can you do about it? When faced with a child who is crying or scared, the logical reaction would be to soothe him or her by using phrases such as “it’s not serious” or “don’t be afraid”. According to Audrey Platania, these are precisely the expressions that should not be used: by saying this, the child thinks that you don’t understand him/her, and internalises his/her anxieties, which are then likely to become deeper and more difficult to deal with. Your objective: talk to him, tell him that you understand him and, above all, acknowledge his fears.
What if it doesn’t work? Unfortunately, there is no miracle solution to your baby’s crying. Only time will calm him down and he will eventually get used to his new environment. You will see for yourself: the anxieties will disappear as quickly as they appeared! However, if after 6 months the fear and sadness continue, talk to the school staff and do not hesitate to call in a child psychiatrist.